Grief of loss OR the letting go of grief?

Grief comes in many forms. Not only in the loss of a loved one due to death. But many other challenges of loss, such as, the loss of a home, a job, a business, children through moving away, friends leaving, misunderstandings that strain relationships, the loss of possessions, and even the loss of a sense of youth.

Grief is an aggressive mental suggestion. It hits us hard at times. Many times it comes out of the blue. Shock, sorrow, disbelief, melancholy seems to add to the sense of grief. The length of time we deal with grief is determined by how long we hold onto the feelings of loss. It can seem to come and pass quickly or linger for years.

But if we saw grief as an aggressive mental suggestion such as fear, doubt, worry. If we see grief as actually a burden upon our thoughts and lives, a mental suggestion we do not have to agree to, we can become free from the depths of grief. In actuality we can deny it as a part of our experience.  We can claim our dominion over grief when we realize that it is a temptation, not a gift from God.

In Psalms we read, “How long shall I take counsel in my soul, having sorrow in my heart daily? how long shall mine enemy be exalted over me? But I have trusted in thy mercy; my heart shall rejoice in thy salvation. I will sing unto the Lord, because he hath dealt bountifully with me.”¹

The freedom from grief is a relief. The realization that God gives to man all Good lifts us above all the burdens that the tempter brings to our thoughts. This includes grief. We can say “No” to all sadness, burdens, fears, doubts, concerns through the understanding of What God is and what God gives. If we saw that everything is from God, through Good, and is manifested by Man, Man would be free from anything unlike God’s nature and qualities of Good.

“This is the doctrine of Christian Science: that divine Love cannot be deprived of its manifestation, or object; that joy cannot be turned into sorrow, for sorrow is not the master of joy; that good can never produce evil; that matter can never produce mind nor life result in death.”²

No loss, no pain, no sorrow when we claim all Good as the Being of our lives. Spiritual Being, Love, the supreme and only Mind, Divine Life, is the Truth of our experience. When we claim the Perfection and completeness of our lives as God’s children it lifts us above all the other claims of evil, sorrow, loss.

“Love is true solace and giveth joy for sorrow, —
O, in that light, all earthly loss is gain;
Joy must endure, Love's giving is forever;
Life is of God, whose radiance cannot wane.”³

This life brings burdens, sorrows and fears. But the more we learn about God as Love, trust His ever-present Good, knowing how He tenderly cares for all, we can rise more quickly over those aggressive feelings. We can rise above grief and sadness. We can feel His heavenly touch and regain our joy, the gift of God.

Gentle hugs


1The King James Version of the Holy Bible Psalms 13: 2, 5, 6
2 Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures by Mary Baker Eddy page 304 line 12
3 The Christian Science Hymnal No. 174 vs. 2